As I stepped out of my office today to buy some snacks to munch while working (yes! i love those high-calorie ones!)- there was a ‘gang’ of not-so-educated fellows standing next to my office building. The moment they saw me- the catcalls began… I know I should be used to such scenarios and probably just ignore them and walk straight past. But, me being me, I stopped and stared hard at them. It had some effect for sure- they stopped and started talking amongst themselves. But it made me wonder a lot of things.
Why is it that I cannot go anywhere in this city without having an ‘eye’ on my back (or front)! why is it that men think that they have a ‘right’ over women? why is it that when fellow car-drivers see me driving alone in my car, they start car-teasing me? there are so many other ‘whys’ in my mind right now! why?
According to many people, the solution lies with me- the clothes I wear, the places I visit, the hour of travel, the way I talk! To such people I say- well… if truth be told.. I dont even like talking to such people who believe that freedom is the birth right of only men in this society. I am sorry if my beliefs hurt you- but I BELIEVE in equality. People take a second to find faults in women. (I will take up this equality debate some other time though).
In my 25 odd years of existence, I have faced numerous incidents of eve-teasing. Every time I am weirdly surprised at how creative these guys can get. But what I wonder the most is what goes on in their mind when they do such a thing- is it just an addiction? or is it some deep-routed psychological issue to reign over women!
All I can say is-
As I walk on the street
I feel eyes following me
from left and right and between
Fly away I would
if only… I could!
And be lost in the sky
Far away from these eyes
that fill my soul with disgust
that make me feel like i am lost
in a pool of in-human-ness
I cringe at their vulgar face
I wonder if they ever feel any shame
Their actions show their inner self
I wonder if they ever earned respect
of a woman- a mother-a sister-a friend
or had fathers who taught them well
I am left word-less
when people say
that this is the way it is
you are a girl-face the fact
so be well mannered and fully dressed!!!